you know that you don’t connect with fire, so stop and consider: what do you connect with? what is it about nature that appeals to you the most? the breeze in the trees, the feel of the earth on your bare feet, the sound and feel of running water? what does your instinct tell you, what empowers you the most, what soothes you the most? you could try meditating and exploring this further as well.
here’s a list of elements and their associations, perhaps these posts might point you in the right direction.